Control - Identifying the Orphan Spirit - Day 6

Day 6 - Spirit of Control

Fear is a seed bed for the controlling personality found in the Orphan Spirit. Living in a world of uncertainties causes the Orphan Spirit to latch on to anything that offers security whether big of small – much like what we see in the spirit of poverty.

On the other side of the coin, there are the unsecured components in the Orphan Spirit’s life. Things which are deeply loved and desired…but not guaranteed.

Things like…people.

This leads us to a place of considering two separate scenarios – are you a controller? Or, are you being controlled?

As you study this chapter, first analyze your own behavior. Do you have a tendency to control and manipulate your relationships? And for what purpose? As painful as it is, take the time to honestly evaluate your friendships, marriage and other relationships. Ask God to show you the areas of your life where you are letting fear drive you in an attempt to control others.

Then, take a moment to consider any difficult relationships in your life.  Are you being controlled by someone?  This too can be reflective of the Orphan Spirit mindset - sons and daughters know that they are worthy of being loved without conditions being placed over them.  If you are in a relationship that is controlling and abusive, find someone who can help you make wise choices in how to handle your situation.


Ask yourself:
· Am I convinced I cannot be happy unless other people make certain changes?

· How do I feel when my spouse or my children make me “look bad”? What is my response?

· If a project isn’t going my way, do I tend to micromanage everyone?

· How do I treat those who do not hold the same values as I?

· If someone I love lets me down, do I remind them often of their failures?

Start from the beginning:

Day 1 - Intro

Day 2 - Jealousy

Day 3 - Poverty

Day 4 - Fear

Day 5 - Narcissism 

For Day 7, read Chapter 7 of All the King's Orphans and Week 7 of the correlating Study Guide.