Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 12, 2020

Building in Babylon

There’s a story in the book of Jeremiah that we talk little about.  Yet, in it you will find one of the most well known verses in the Bible.  

Chapter 29 begins with the prophet writing a letter to the people of Jerusalem who had been captured and taken to Babylon.  I can only imagine what being exiled to a foreign land must feel like.  The changes in culture and language.  The loss of home and family and freedom.  

How scared they must have been.


I wonder at the excitement they must have felt when news of the letters arrival spread throughout their community.  I can actually feel the hope that must have coursed through their veins with the expectation of deliverance that was most certainly spelled out in the pages they now held.


Surely, this captivity was about to end!  Soon they would be set free from this bondage and back to the very thing they longed for… home!  


To life as it was... before.


I can imagine the scenarios that played through their minds as they began to open the letter.  Was there a secret plan in place?  Had Jeremiah come up with a way to help them escape?  Was he even now just outside those city gates preparing to set them free?

And how their hearts must have broken when they saw those first words, “This is what the Lord says.. ‘Build homes, and plan to stay.’”


Plan to stay?

No!! 


Just reading these words thousands of years later brings tears to my eyes.


Build homes? 


Here? 


In Babylon?


The letter goes on to encourage the exiled people to not only build homes but to plant gardens… get married… have children… and then have them marry!  


Wait.. what?


“We’re gonna be here that long?!?”


As Christians today, we focus so often on being set free from bondage.  And, yes, there are many bondages we should seek to be free from.


But we cannot deny that there are situations in our lives that we cannot change.  We cannot avoid. And we cannot escape.


Which begs the questions - what does your Babylon look like?


The death of a dream?  A marriage?  A loved one?


Loss of health? Home? Finances?  


Or can it be summed up by simply saying “COVID-19”?


Babylon is that place we land unwillingly and with no desire to stay.  And to open our minds to the idea of putting down roots and learning to live… no… even thrive in Babylon is offensive to our senses.


I shared this concept with a group of teens recently.  Many of them are living in the Babylon of broken homes.  It is not of their choosing - yet they have no other option.  Their current condition is based on the choices of others.  


And they must reap the consequences.


I challenged them to look even further into Jeremiah 29.  In verse 7, the people are told to “work for the peace and prosperity of Babylon.  Pray for it.  For its welfare will determine your welfare.”


What??


Pray for the peace and prosperity of my Babylon?


No!

I don’t want to live here!  


I. want. to. go. home.


Back to before.


Back to normal.


We can wail and scream and cry.  Search for a means of escape… ignore the obvious… and attack those around us.


But when you’re in Babylon… you’re in Babylon.


At the moment when their hearts couldn’t have sank deeper into their chests, hope appeared on the pages of that letter.


Yes, they were stuck in Babylon.  Yes, they were asked to accept their reality and learn to live with it.  


A hard ask. 


But then the Lord gave those beautiful words we love to claim without acknowledging those earlier sentences… He said, “I know the plans I have for you.  They are plans for good and not for disaster.  Plans to give you a hope and a future.”


He goes on to invite His people to search for Him wholeheartedly with the promise to end their captivity and restore their fortunes - but it wouldn’t happen for seventy years.  


Life had changed.  And it would never look the same for them again.


Sound familiar?


I asked earlier what your Babylon looks like.


How long have you been there?

How hard has it been?


Does the thought of staying offend your senses?

I get it.  I do.


And while your Babylon might look different than mine, I invite you to link arms and join me in praying for the peace and prosperity of our individual Babylons even as we shake the dust off our weary hearts and begin searching for ways to build a life inside our situations.


Take comfort in knowing that God knew where to find the exiled people - after all, the letter reached them even though they were far from home.  He knows where to find you as well.


When we stop searching for a way to escape Babylon, it is then we can pick up a hammer and begin building a new life inside the wrong side of the walls we so despise.


It may not be where you’d choose to be… but if that’s where you are, I hope you will find courage to rise up, build, plant roots and thrive - even in Babylon.


Thursday, April 7, 2016

Identifying the Lies

Guide me in Your truth and teach me,
for You are God, my Savior, 
and my hope is in You all day long.
Psalm 25:5



What are the thoughts that consume you?

What do you spend the most time thinking about?

What are the core beliefs you tell yourself about your life and relationships?

Think about it for a moment...

A majority of our daily energy is consumed by the thoughts racing around in our heads - and this is not new news to our enemy - the devil.  And he has capitalized on this information from the beginning of time... starting with Eve.

You see, Satan wants nothing more than to destroy every good thing in your life and he has found a formula that has been successful in stealing peace, removing hope and destroying relationships. 

Revealing the Recipe:
What is that recipe?  It's quite simple.  He takes one part truth and slowly stirs in doubts and fears.  

Here's a simple illustration:
Core truth: My friend didn't say hello to me today.
Add in: "What's her problem?"  "Is she mad at me?" and "Did I do something wrong?"

Stir together, then add: "She's so stuck up" and "I get so sick of her drama!"

Let this set for a while, stirring occasionally.  Then add "She's probably just jealous!" and/or "She thinks she's so much better than everyone."

Next, add in: "What's wrong with me?"  "No one likes me." and "I'm worthless."

And on and on it goes.  The core truth is your base ingredient - like flour in a loaf of bread.  The lies are much like the yeast - small and subtle, yet able to affect everything else and blow it out of proportion.

"But my friend didn't say hello," you say.  

That's true.

What about it?

There are plenty of reasons for misunderstandings in a relationship.  Our job is to cut away all the lies and return to the truth.  My friend didn't say hello - so I'm going to reach out.  I'm going to check in and see how she's doing.  I'm going to humble myself, lay down my hurt and offense and pursue connection.  I'm going to love her too much to let a small misunderstanding tear us apart.


Identifying the truth:

What are the lies you are believing?  

Is it in a friendship?  Your marriage?  Your relationship with God?

Take a moment and ask God to reveal the truth of your situation to you once again.  When the truth is painful, ask Him to guide you to know how to handle it.  Sometimes it requires moment by moment, step by step guidance... but He is willing to do that for you - He loves you that much!  

At the same time, do not open yourself up to carry the lies Satan wants to add on to the truth.  That is an added weight that you are not called to carry and it will rob you of your strength, steal your peace and eventually destroy your life.